SM Shows Love and Trust between the Lovers

I am Julie. I am a student doing a master's degree in Chinese English translation, this involves a deep exploration about cultural differentiations. Before I came to Australia, I studied Art Design for 7 years, which promoted my imagination and sense of aesthetics. Thus, I enjoy fantasizing and having exotic sensual and sexual experiences, in terms of sex preference, especially SM.

Basically, I like to try anything new and there is no limitation of my curiosity. Specifically, among the others, I have particular fantasies in beading wax and bondage with whipping, slapping, fingering, and so on. During the process, I feel satisfied, submitting to my lover whom I trust.

I think SM shows love and trust between the lovers, and it is natural to express the respect and adoration in the way of submissiveness. We can build up our personality through this kind of relationship that we both enjoy and desire. Nothing can be more important than fully believing in my lover.

However, some people approach SM with nothing but negative stereotypes in their mind. It includes that, to love SM, we must have a sick reason, such as childhood abuse, depressing life, gender confusion, etc. This means they do not understand the essence of BDSM which is giving to your lover more deeply than you ever thought you could, and providing outlet to fantasies you never imagined could come true.

I love SM, because it is a kind of active, dynamic self-expression, and it can give me a tremendous boost to my self-esteem, throughout which we can experience the pleasant sensation that stimulates our psychological well-being.